Belajar dari dr. Eva J. Hoffman. NGOMONG BENER SAJA KOQ SUSAH

Kata-kata memiliki kekuatan untuk menyembuhkan atau menyakiti; untuk memperbaiki atau merusak; untuk menguatkan atau melemahkan.

Rubrik Book
Perkatan dan ucapan begitu berarti. Setiap saat anak menerima ungkapan dari orang dewasa. Tak ada manual mendidik anak. Namun bisa dipelajari. Yang diperlukan adalah
menurunkan ego kita sebagai orang dewasa, agar mau mengoreksi tata bicara kita selama ini.

Dua buku yang ditulis oleh bu Eva Hoffman ini wajib dibaca oleh Guru,orang tua, dan nenek kakek, agar patut memberi komentar terhadap setiap perkataan anak, untuk
memperkuat konsep diri.

Stuart Patton selaku pemrakarsa dan penyunting buku yang diterbitkan dalam dua bahasa ini memberikan latar belakang, mangapa Bu Hoffman berhasrat membuat buku ini. Siapa tahu, kalau diingatkan oleh orang luar, kita jadi mau lebih ‘ndengerin’.

"Dr. Hoffman made the decision to write this little book based on here experience of working with both Teachers, Parents and Children back in the UK and other parts of Europe. Her goal was to help Parents understand what a crucial role they play in the education of their children, and the key to understanding this role is learning how to effectively communicate with your children, something thats affects every parent no matter where in the world you live.

Dr. Hoffman states that “Children’s brains evolve by taking information from their surroundings from the day they are born. The biggest influence on the way the child develops is the sum of their experiences, both good and bad. The nurturing of a child is a key responsibility of a parent : there are no parent instruction leaflets, no parent manuals, as each child is unique, but sometimes there are right and wrong ways of doing things”

Good communication in any situation requires respect, patience, and an effort to understand others by really listening to what they say, and in some cases what they do not say. This description is no different to the communication of a parent with a child, the skill of effective listening is probably more important to a parent than any other, of course listening can only happen if you have communication.

In our world of every growing media connections, it is easier than ever before for children to communicate with other children via social groups, be it twitter, facebook or some other on line facility. In this new media world neither parents or teachers have any real influence on what is being communicated to, from and between children, this is their world.

The key is to ensure parents don’t loose communication with their children, which means making time to communicate, and aiming to communicate in a positive way, using the right words. This little book has only 35 pages, it was designed so that parents could read on the go, sat in the car, waiting for a bus, or having coffee in the mall. You can read the book in 25 minutes, but the principles will last a lifetime, as will good communication with your children. TG

*) Tulisan ini diterbitkan pada edisi 11/2011. Judul cover : MENJADI INDONESIA. Dapatkan majalah Teachers Guide di Gramedia atau Gunung Agung. Atau, silakan berlangganan jika tak ingin luput ketinggalan.